THE RIGHT MAN OR THE THE BEST MAN

It was with much interest that I read the segment "ST interview" . The dean of Singapore's pretigious Insead business school was interviewed . Amongst the many things he said, " CEO surrounds themselves wth people that will listen as opposed to challenge. " sets off a chain of questions in my mind.He is of the opinion that for growth to take place , one must get out of their comfort zone .of course. One must operates from a different organization and I think that tends to create greater level of stress and conflict and maybe build resentment too .Its a challenge to change assumptions and so, I believe, some of them makes decision from the very beginning . It is seemingly quite common , that the they bring with them not just , knowledge , expertise , vision , but also, the people , whom they are comfortable working with. Is it to find platform to connect instantly and my guess, ? Eeeerrr corporate loyalty?????So where are the challenges

If I take this idea, in another context , maybe friendship. I draw some parallel there. Most of us are friends with people we are most comfortable with and these are people that do not challenge us in any way. Believe me, that's much appreciated. Many times we just want to chill out huh. However my thinking is that , its also good to keep the few that give me the poke too. I have some like this. They give me a raise ................ eerrr .....................in my blood pressure ....but it kicks me into thinking differently and thats much appreciated too. True It drives me nuts a, at times .Over time through my friendship , I learn a lot about perspective, processes and all. In the beginning it was a tough friendship , or rather an annoying one , but once I realise how much I can learn from this friendship, I learn to adjust, to keep it. I have also learned to be a humble student. I also learn that being judgemental is not the same as exercising good judgment. To keep friendship, the latter must dominate over the former.

WE ARE WHAT WE EAT..............

WE ARE WHAT WE EAT

That's a fair comment I should think. It brought fresh memory of Supersize Me movie and images of late Karen carpenter. I toyed with the idea of genetically modified (GM) food and wonders what impact it really has on us or perhaps our children.

We have GM maize commercially grown in EU and , Brazil, the world largest coffee producing country has their scientists and agronomists working on producing GM coffee... , soy and others.Understandnably, that under current situation ...with climate change , our food production is greatly threatened. Alternatives are required, one alternative is to turn to genetic engineering to bolster food production. I hope the solution is only to fill the gap in food production and not in anyway to intefere with the function of human brain. Many of us drink coffee because it appeals to the emotional side of the brains, there is no pleasure when there is no consumption.I hope its stops there and not move to any other dangerous level. The last thing we need , is hatred for each other.

ANTICIPATION VS ANXIETY

Sometime i have this unsettling feeling and I cannot pin it down to anxiety or anticipation. Anxiety, its like worrying for a debt you have not even incurred.Anticipation on the other hand gives me the feeling of hope and energy. Anyway I soon realize, I could somehow influence , guide my feeling to a certain extend. If I build a positive , blue print in my mind and believe it 101% , I end up anticipating , my whole senses reacts with such urge to move and to create. A sudden gush of energy!The wonderful part is , the mind starts to plan and jolted me into actions aligned with the thoughts. So I have heard ,..... it has a mind of its own.The next time , my heart feels unsettled , I begin with the end in mind

Interesting , Sometimes is not easy to apply though. I was with colleagues in Subang today, on way to dinner , I was consumed with hunger. OMG. Lost in anticipation of food and food and food. Arrived and ordered dinner , relishing every mouthful .....Great company , great dinner and great conversation and then somehow the conversation moves to topic of security or rather the lack of it in general. Increasing crime rate and all. I looked around and noticed that we were the only patrons there , not so many of us , only 3. My thoughts started to besiege me with all kinds of what ifs...( after all we are in the industrial part of Subang, ). A sudden wave of fear engulfed me and I lost myself in anxiety and guess what it did to me. It unsettled me totally. Period. back in comfort of my hotel room I thought to myself, I wasted that time of life worrying ......anticipation or anxiety. Totally anticipation!!

LOVE THEM ANY HOW................

Flipping thru the sunday papers , and my eyes fixeted on a page , babies photos . They are such darlings, arent they. Cute , adorable , innocence and purity..... i could continue ... .
New parents are excited for the newborns and proud parents of their progress and they want to share with the world. I am happy for them but trust you dont own your time anymore. Anyway i was puzzled why were the parents requested to , ( besides putting thier name and babies names ) are required to put in the parents occupation too . You have eg
Baby : Danny
Parents : Ana and Daim
Occupation : Teacher and Engineer.
What ever was that for?????
My feeling is that whether they are born into aristrocat family or a janitor's family , celebrate them for their arrival ! be enthusiastic and excited that there is an addition and wish them all the best & hope they grow up to be great. Maybe itis better , to put in place of , Occupation , Location instead. and have a text line for their parents inspiration for them.

Well , we know what got us into todays situation, the big boys at the big banks and just say , lets just say we have a banker's baby, what feelings and thoughts ,will we have when we look at them, " i hope you dont grow us to be so greedy ? huh, eh , eeer?
So let us leave the occupation aside and put the inspiration instead.
Is that not what every parents have , for their newborns ???

EXPERIENCING AND EXPRESSING GRATITUDE

Its a tough time for many now , jobs lost , temper lost , and sadly, some lost their families as well. MP torched , part of Australia is burning! Never underestimate the power of emotion. ! Where I work , we are going thru structural change too , undoubtedly that creates 'structural tension'. As a family we got together and talk about this things. Most important is that family stays united . The security that traditional jobs offers are gone long ago . Whiff , Wheww, Busted .In moments like this . I think is importantfor me to stay cool . Deep breathing is a good thing to do when I feel that stress level rises. Simple law of physics , No two things can occupy the same space at the same time. Equally true , no 2 thoughts can occupy my mind at the same time. Heck, I have a simple mind !!. Last week my job took me to Balikpapan and Samarinda, When I looked at the living condition there , my heart is filled with gratitude to GOD for all that my familes have received . May not be much but enough to lead a decent life. I hold deeply my faith in GOD and work towards abundance , AMIN
( a mosque in Samarinda, its really awesome)

My Girl , My Butterfly.............

Destiny is not a thing to be waited for , its a thing to be achieved.
BIG CONGRATS to Emira Aqila
All of us enjoyed your awesome JUARA performance . Watching her performed yesterday left me with heady feelings because she has grown so much now, from the cute chubby little girl.( I miss that dont I) into FINE young woman. My hope is that my Emira, would face the world and all its challenges with courage, confidence and integrity.No matter what happens externally to you, it really depends on you and how you want to internally perceive any situation..... same set of circumstances but 2 different beliefs. One saw hope and the other saw despair. Myself and daddy always know you will find hope in all situation that confronts you. Mummy , daddy and Amirul , We are so proud of you dear.......our fairest butterfly

MY VALENTINE...................

Looking back its been a long love journey for me.17 years and going ....... In todays world of instant gratification , instant relationship , admittedly it will be a challenge to move forward. A friend of mine told me this , Golden rule girl..... KISS Keep It Simple Sis . Eeeeer....r , what she means is , keep the nos at two , its easier to work things out like that.

Having said that , I dont think , a wonderful marriage happens instantly . I must say it takes effort , focus and commitment. . Love is Free ....Commitment is Priceless.

Well my Valentine , I really appreciate you being my valentine all these years , may our marriage be blessed to celebrate many more VALENTINES.....Continue to cherish the moment. So happy for the slideshow received dear

NOT ACTUALLY READY WITH MY THOUGHTS NOW..............
I read sometime back that we all need emptiness in our lives in order to learn and learn more and keep evolving because most of the time we are full of I , Me and Mine . Admittedly , I thought its was quite confusing, at least in the beginning, but after a while I could not agree more. .....